I had a rant post that I requested to delete bc I got a little too hot and ranty, but my cousin who is a Dr. in Veterinary Medicine decided that the best thing she could do for herself before she moved out to WA for her Active Duty Army commission is get married to someone who she dated for MAYBE a year, never lived together and then get pregnant a month after her marriage all while living far, far away from either of their families who live in IL. She won't admit it, but she is very tired all the time and honestly seems miserable in her tone. Last time I called her, she acted like I was the best thing to happen to her as of late.
Everyone more or less told me that there's nothing I can really do, which is true. If my 27 year old cousin can't make rational choices in life, then that's her problem. I'm glad that I at LEAST understand that if I REALLY want something, I need to put in the effort to make that happen. As you've stated, people are far less in a pecking order here and I really appreciate that. Partially that's because most of us use our trucks/suvs for work so we actually have to make money and fix our vehicles to care for ourselves and our livelihoods rather than showing it off for the sake of showing it off. I'm very happy with my truck rn, but I've had to put in long hours in the sun working on it to make it what it is. Are there other things I'd like to do? Sure. But am I happy now? Yes. And that's what matters.