From the bottom left hand side of the interior junction block, on the bottom row count 4 terminals over to the right and then 2 terminals up (might be labled: green). That terminal SHOULD only be hot when the key is in the ON or ACC postion. The lights should NOT have any bearing on whether or not the terminal is switched. Keep in mind that the terminals on the junction block are NOT fused, so be sure to add a fuse if you haven't already. When your testing with your multimeter or test light, make sure that your grounding to a bare metal ground and not a ground terminal etc. Try that and see if you can find that terminal that is switched with the key, there ARE a few terminals in that junction block that are switched with the key.
If your using a multimeter, it should read as follows regardless if the lights are on or not:
Key in the ON position: 12V+
Key in the START postion: 0V
Key in the ACC position: 12V+
Key in the off position: 0V