I agree with Chris, what burnt up your valves is the air coming back into the pipes, that is why you don't run open headers all the time. My old man swears by it, says the cold air can get sucked back up and it burns the valves. Not due to cat being gone, vehicles didn't get cats til 76 or so, they never burnt valves up all the time because of it. it's not gonna burn valves with no cat or gutted cats.
The whole huge pipe deal is true too, no need, it's easier to push air out with some velocity and scavneing then it is one huge open pipe where it can just stay and swirl around and barely get out.
Think of it this way, race cars run headers right? why? and have long collectors and such. It's for scavenging the exhaust gases out, and not just letting them dump out the head, if you ran something for a good while right out the head it'd burn the valves quicker.
As for retuneing the carb after removing the exhaust, you know why that is??? an engine is an air pump, if you move air out, you gotta move air in. That's why you don't stuff on free flowing heads, intakes and carbs and leave restrictive manifolds on it. Or why you don't run 3 inch duals on a stock motor and 2 inch primary headers on a stock motor. it makes no sense and is not needed.
If you put air in you gotta get it out, and if you get it out, like free flowing or straight headers you sometimes(on atv's and motorcycles) have to rejet to make it work, mostly because of the airflow required and fuel supply etc.
A cat removed aint gonna cause a truck to run lean, it only heats up and burns off the nox and other emissions crap, the o2 sensors are what causes the motor to go lean or rich.