Black Bear is great. Free re-tunes for life. They tuned my V6 truck. As far as what package to get, they only offer standard mail order tunes for our trucks. They can't do in person or data cable tunes unless you're 0411 swapped. I think they may be able to tune some specific versions of the 98+ black box PCMs in person, not sure though.
According to Justin at Black Bear, anything over 89 octane is a waste for these trucks. You can tune for higher, and I did for a minute, but it's not going to make any difference except costing you more in gas. I actually had them re-tune me to 87 octane and I can't tell the difference from the 93 tune.
Also, torque management. My opinion is DO NOT mess with it unless your transmission is heavily built. Or at all really. I removed 100% of the factory TM initially from my tune and my stock 4L60E blew up about a month later. Had it rebuilt much stronger and then it shifted too hard, to the point that I got another re-tune and added all the torque management back in. It still breaks traction between first and second gear every time at WOT. It's actually faster in the quarter mile with the TM intact anyway.
As far as performance increases, it really is an amazing difference. Best thing I've done to that truck by far. No difference in fuel economy that I've noticed, but the truck is so much more fun to drive. Holds gears better over hills and just generally feels a lot stronger.