You WILL want to make sure the torque converter is fully seated. It'll drop in a few times.
Restating: The converter should fully seat into the transmission pump. Turn the converter slowly and it may "drop in" when the slots on the converter's hub engage with the pump. Do this with the trans out of the vehicle (obviously).
Once the trans is bolted up, there should be something on the order of 1/4" gap between the flex plate and torque converter when you shove it all the way down. You should have to pull the converter up to the flex plate to bolt it up.
Restating: One should see some sort of notable gap (I might have guessed 1/8") when the trans is bolted-up to the engine and the converter is still "buried" into the pump (see the step above).
Finally, by hand, grab a couple of the mounting ears on the converter (or grab it by the body) and shove it toward the flexplate. It should move smoothly into position (in my experience anyway), with the converter's "snout" (that little jobbie in the converter's center that acts as a pilot) buried in the corresponding center position of the flexplate, and the converter's mounting lugs against the flexplate.
I haven't bolted-up a million automatics, maybe four or five (most recently, last Nov). The process was straight-fwd.
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