The further back you are, the less accurate your "IR" gun will be as they have a Focus Point". Also, you are reading the outside of metal, not the coolant inside and on top of a thermostat, this would be the colder side, unit the "T-Stat" opens.
I guess my question is, what is the reason you are checking the engine coolant temperature for? Is it for gauge accuracy, new digital cluster, electric fan controller?
As stated, I would use a scan tool to check actual coolant temp reading. Just keep in mind, the parts stores use different tools to "Read Codes" but most likely do not have coolant temp access.
Just curious as some post do not have enough info to know where to go to provide an answer for your exact concern.