Ok, this is going to be simple. First off, you do need a 4 pin relay. You can get this at any parts store or pull one out of a junk car if you have one laying around. Some relays have a mounting tab, just depends on where you get it. A 5 pin relay will work, but it will have a unused terminal. You will need 4 female spade connectors that fit the terminals on the relay. I am trying to get you some pictures together but my pics are not working at the moment, so lets see how good i can explain everything. Before you start, unhook your battery cables. Next, you need a battery + source and a inline fuse. The large bolt on the back of the alternator is a ideal spot for this. Remove the nut on the back of the alternator that holds the large charge wire on. You will need a ring terminal that will fit on the stud. Crimp the ring terminal to the inline fuse. Put this on the stud on the back of the alternator and replace the nut. So, so far, we have a hot wire attached to the back of the alternator with a fuse in it. Now you need to decide where to mount your relay. Anywhere is ok (under the hood behind the headlight or on the fender somewhere is where i would put it) , just as long as its away from the exhaust/belt/fan so it won't get damaged. Now, you need the single wire that comes from the inline fuse to be 2 wires. The best way to do this is crimp a butt connector to the inline fuse, and crimp 2 wires to the other end of the butt connector. One of these wires needs to be at least the same size as the wire that came with your lights, the other one can be smaller, it doesn't really matter. So, now we have the wire we put on the back of the alternator, a inline fuse, then it splits into 2 wires. The length of these wires will be determined by where you mount your switch and your relay. At this point, the larger of the 2 wires (if they are the same size it won't matter) goes to the relay. It will attach to pin 30. It will be numbered on the bottom of the relay. The easiest way to do this is with a female spade connector that will slide on the pin on the relay. The other (smaller) wire will go to your switch. So now we have a wire on the back of the alternator, an inline fuse, then it splits into 2 wires, one goes to pin 30 on your relay, the other goes to your fog light switch. Next, you need a wire from your switch to pin 86 on your relay. In the diagram that came with your lights, this is the terminal on the switch that your lights are connected to. You can hook up the ground to the fog light switch if you want the light to work inside it- totally optional. Pin 85 on your relay gets grounded. So now we have a wire off the back of the alternator, a fuse, it splits into 2 wires, one goes to pin 30 on your relay, the other goes to your switch, then from your switch to pin 86 on your relay. Pin 85 on your relay is grounded. All this leaves is pin 87. if it is a 5 pin relay, terminal 87A is not used. Connect pin 87 to the + wires on your lights. Ground the - wires on your lights. If you can draw this and reply with a pic of the drawing, I can tell you if it is correct or not, I would draw you a diagram but my pics are not working. Thats all it is to it, you will have a reliable way to turn your fog lights on and off whenever you want without burning up any switches.