Is your Dad buried under an iron plate in Montana? You remind me enormously of my wife's cousin.
No, he died in a house fire in late 2018, was cremated and his ashes are in an urn in my(was our) shop building. That was his favorite place to stay,so why not? His dad's family was from Virginia, and some of them moved to California. Probably most of them I knew are gone now, they were old the last time I saw them.
My great grandmother's family, Dad's mom's mom, was from Baton Rouge, Louisiana, and came to Wichita Falls, Texas, in the Flood of 1875, on a raft made from the roof and rafters of their house, built by the father and the boys while the mom and daughters gathered what possessions they could. Big French Catholic family, 9 kids. "Pop", my dad's great grandpa, was 5. His father died not long after they arrived in Texas, leaving his widow with the kids; one was younger than Pop. He had been a Confederate cavalry officer, because he could read and write. One of the ancestors on my Mom's family, maternal side, was a Confederate infantry officer in Missouri because he was literate.
They were both farmers with small farms, couldn't really afford slaves. The only one that's recorded, associated with either family, is on my mom's maternal side. The officer I mentioned, was wounded at Chickamauga, and rumors were he'd been killed. In actuality, he was wounded, but was found by a relative in the area near the battle and taken to their farm to recover. But his wife wouldn't believe he was dead,so she gathered up her infant and the black woman who was likely wet nurse, cook, etc. and headed to the battlefield. They went through many checkpoints where the Union troops were searching them and what they carried, stabbing bayonets through their possessions. I would imagine that after the war she was freed.