1) There is no difference in diesel and gas NV4500s in Gm applications (other than a tailshaft damper on newer SMF setups). In Dodge applications the diesel and V10 gas have differences over the v8 gas version.
2) all NV4500s can spin the nut on 5th gear, it is a flaw in the design. It is easy for dodge diesels to do it because of the vibration of the I6 Cummins. much harder to do with a GM with smooth running v-8s, but it is possible. I have a 95 with spun 5th.
3)all dodge and 96+ GMs have the same bellhousing to transmission bolt pattern, but input shafts differ, so like said above it is best to just get everything out of a GM rig.
For a half ton, I think a late, late 94 and up unit with the 5.61 1st and reverse would be more half ton friendly, the 6.34s are hard to find, and the jeep guys gobble them up for rock crawling, and they dont shift as nice with the old top cover. If you want low gears and the new top cover, either find a 94 or swap a top cover onto a 92 or 93.
If you ever sell the truck, try to keep the bellhousing pattern matched to the truck for the sake of the new guy ordering parts, aka 95 and older had an external slave setup and 96+ had internal.
IMO the lighter transmissions are better suited for the half tons, and are not that weak. I have towed over 10K behind my 91 C1500 with the 4.3L and the 5LM60 is supposedly weaker than the NV3500. NV4500 is stout, but the 3-4 gap kinda sucks and they run expensive gear oil (20+ bucks a quart for the GM stuff) so they are not perfect.
Good luck!