Wow... parts stores suck these days.... you can use a 50a Maxi fuse and holder... EVERY parts store I've been in has them.. and the relay is easy... make it a negative trigger relay (no power through the switch that could burn the switch up this way...)
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And the short distance the power wire will be going 10 gauge would be fine, 8gauge if your worried about it.. mount the relays in the engine bay and fuse close to the battery as possible. Connect to 86 and 30 on relay..
Then main line off of relay (number 87 on relay) through firewall (with a grommet) then up "A" pillar and out (your choice how it goes out) to the lights.
Then mount the switch of your choice in the cab.. 1 side of switch to a simple ground.(most any screw into metal will work) Other side of switch goes to "trigger"(number 85 on the relay) on the relay... switch controls the relay by completing(energizing) the relay through the ground...
I like this idea as I almost burned a GTO up years ago by an amp gauge wire shorting where it went though the firewall. I have been very careful about running power through ever since. My aux. lights are for launching my boats at night so face the rear I use a switch with a light so I know they are on. I guess if I just ran a light power wire from the fuse box to the switch I could still operate the relay and the telltail by grounding